DOES FORGIVENESS/ UN FORGIVENESS LOOKS AS WHITE/BLACK FOR OUR SUBJECTIVE WELL-BEING

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Published: May 30, 2024

  Gershons Breslavs

  Olga Paramonova

Abstract

Research on resentment (unforgiveness) and forgiveness is presented in the scientific literature in a clear disparity with its real-life implications. While forgiveness has been studied for more than 40 years, the study of resentment is only at an initial stage. Therefore, our task was both a phenomenological study of these psychological phenomena and a test of the new PPS scale for diagnosing resentment and forgiveness and its connections with subjective (psychological) well-being. The results of the phenomenological study indicate that the key point in the transition from resentment to forgiveness is the motivation to maintain a relationship with the offender, the belief in the unintentional nature of the offense, as well as the presence of good intentions and repentance of the offender. The results of the correlation study showed the expected negative relationship between resentment and its components with subjective well-being and a positive relationship with ill-being. However, there was the absence of such a connection between resentment and physical health or depression, while forgiveness had no significant connection with subjective well-being. The latter finding differs from numerous studies and requires additional research using a more diverse methodology.

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Breslavs, G., & Paramonova, O. (2024). DOES FORGIVENESS/ UN FORGIVENESS LOOKS AS WHITE/BLACK FOR OUR SUBJECTIVE WELL-BEING. Baltic Journal of Legal and Social Sciences, 2(2), 106-116. https://doi.org/10.30525/2592-8813-2024-2-2-10
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Keywords

resentment (unforgiveness), forgiveness, dispositional forgiveness, emotional forgiveness, subjective well-being

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